Author: Ernesto Pangilinan Santiago

Parenting: “How Can We Become Smart Parents?”

Truth is most responsible and caring parents love to see their precious children to have a bright future, a well established career. Indeed, it is the prime duty of all parents to raise their children and provide them what they need in their life. Parents must serve as a good example or a role model for their children, because what they see from their parents, they will certainly do the same. Certainly, the children need active care from their parents, or from the people who stand in as their parents or guardian. Both parents/guardians need to love and give care to their children and have fun, a quality time, with them because it is by being loved and cared that they learn to be loving and caring themselves.

It is also true that raising obedient and respectful children is not an overnight job; it is more of a 24 by 7 job. This is surely a result, of our own diligent guidance and well effective discipline. Remember what the bible says, “Discipline your son and he will give you happiness and peace of mind.” (Proverb 29:17 Living Bible)

Be fair in giving discipline to our children, ’cos each of our child is an individual with distinct traits and capabilities of his own. So, parents must perceive this and fully treat their children in a humane way. Parents who understand this can reduce conflicts, with a smart action on their parts. When children demand independence or freedom, understanding parents must give them some space, but be sure not enough to make them feel deserted by their own children. Always maintain an open communication and a warm relationship, with our children. If there is a communication gap between parents and their children, problem surely will arise. Of course, our own children must also fully understand the advices and instructions that we’re instilling in them. And, loving parents must also learn to listen to their children.

One of the key to children smooth life and to their social and skill progression is cooperation. You bet, young kids want to learn to be like somebody; and of course, they want to be loved and accepted, especially by their parents. It is only through the interaction between children and their parents that make their nice environment and be feel safe and they won’t be having this inferiority complex. Parents should and it’s an obligation on their part to teach and always correct their children. And, if they’ve committed something wrong, their punishment must be done in proportion to what they’ve committed. Parents should also explain to their children why they’re being punished or grounded. Parents must stay away from subjecting their children to excessive punishment. As Apostle Paul says,” Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. “Col. 3:21 KJV.

Loving and caring our children is not really by means of spoiling them or by tolerating their mistakes; instead, we should correct them and show them how much we care for them. As the bible says, “He who spares the rod hates his Son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline Him.” (Proverb 13:24 NIV). But above all, both parents should train their children to believe and trust in God, for He is love. If we, being their parents/guardians, can instill in them our unselfish love, for them to see the meaning of one’s life, then we are surely one step towards becoming smart parents.

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About the Author:
Ernesto Pangilinan Santiago is a poet/immigrant living in Athens, Greece.
He is the author of a poetry book “The Walking Man”, published by Outskirtspress.com

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